Tuesday, March 31, 2009

Picture of This Day


In front of the Griffith Park Observatory today. We visited there with Kiernan for the first time on the occasion of Wendy's birthday.

As we approached the observatory we noticed a brass rectangle embedded in the sidewalk upon which was inscribed, "ORBIT OF PLUTO". Next we came upon one for Neptune. On and on until we reached the sun. A good introduction to the observatory.

Tuesday, March 31, 2009

Happy Birthday, Wendy!

Monday, March 30, 2009

Picture of This Day


Introducing Gammy and Grance to his new bunk bed. They showed up today as a surprise for Wendy's birthday (which is tomorrow). He was so excited.

Yes, it's a terrible picture. It was hard to catch him in a moment when he wasn't moving today.

March 30, 2009

Thursday, March 26, 2009

Picture of This Day


Cruising during the Trike-a-Thon, a yearly fund raising event at his school. He ended up doing four laps!

Thursday, March 26, 2009

Wednesday, March 25, 2009

Picture of This Day


Playing ball after school with his friend Ian in the small space between the school office and the bushes. They spend a fair amount of time in these bushes, usually referring to them as "the train" and going for train rides while hiding behind them. Today, thanks to Principal Christa, they got to play with balls back there.

After school time rocks.

March 25, 2009

Some Call it Nice


Yesterday Kiernan was doing something or other, and as he is wont to do he asked me to define a word that had been rolling around in his head. He usually won't let a word he doesn't know go by when we're reading to him, or even talking to him. But sometimes he will let a word he's come across just percolate in his brain and then at some random moment will ask what it means.

"Dad, I have a question."

"Go ahead."

"What does paradise mean?"

I paused, then asked, "Where did that come from?"

He just shrugged.

I thought for a moment then said, "It's the most wonderful place you can imagine."

He thought for a moment and replied, "Dad, school is paradise."

I smiled and said something about what a nice thing to say that was. "I'll be sure to tell Teacher Stephanie you said that."

I went to help him wash his hands and as I did he suddenly sang, "Welcome to Paradise..." and then the light went on. I had been singing the song, "Welcome to Paradise"* a couple days before. Just as I was going about doing my thing. I think I was breaking down boxes for recycling or something, and he was helping put the cardboard in the blue bin. I don't know the song that well, so I was mainly just humming and singing the title words over and over. He stored this in that brain of his, kicked around with for awhile, and days later asked me about the word.

Just wanted to share that.



[*The song is by the group Green Day. I considered embedding a video of them performing the song here, just for fun, but it doesn't really fit this blog. Plus I think Billie Joe yells out a naughty word at one point. So here's a link to the video if you care to hear the song. The performance is at a reading festival, of all places.]

Tuesday, March 24, 2009

All the Beautiful Sounds of the World in a Single Word

Tonight, as I cleaned up the dinner plates, for some reason I started singing "Maria" from West Side Story. I'd like to be able to give you some context, but I can't. It just came into my head and I started singing it. Half the time I sing while doing stuff I don't even realize I'm doing it. This does tend to get me some odd looks in the grocery store.

"Maria. I just met a girl named Maria."

Kiernan asked, "Why did you say that?"

"What?"

"About meeting that girl."

"Because it's a song from one of my favorite musicals, West Side Story," I replied.

"
Why do you like it if it has the word girl in it?"

He's four and we're already dealing with this weird gender exclusion stuff. Kiernan has told me about playing at school and not wanting the girls to play superheroes with the boys. Sometimes he says that girls can't play superheroes, except for Stella. She is grandfathered in because she had a superhero identity from the outset. She is Lavagirl. But the other girls are excluded from this. Whether or not they care is not a question I can answer

One day after school the kids were all running around and playing. A couple of the girls staked out a bench as their territory. At some point Kiernan approached and they told him, "No boys!" He found this confusing, coming to me and asking why they would say something like that.

"That's not very nice," he said. "They're not being very nice."

I pointed out to him that he has done the same thing, that he has told me about not playing with the girls at school and not letting them play superheroes. He saw nothing odd about this double-standard, and gave me the look that Calvin gives when, as he says, his mom "goes off on one of her irrelevant tangents again."

This gender stuff, they get it from the jump. No matter how hard you try to be open in the early stages, in your language and your play, they just pick up on the differences and those blossom into biases. This isn't necessarily bad. It just is. But it's interesting to me. Things like pink being just for girls. Or identifying a character in a book as a girl because she's wearing a bow on her head (something he did very early on). We didn't make a fuss over pink being a girlie color. We made a conscious effort to avoid this, but still it took root.

The exclusion thing is easy to get. It's all over the place in books. He saw it in Calvin & Hobbes during the period when we were still [unadvisedly] reading those books to him. Calvin has a anti-girl club called G.R.O.S.S. Get Rid Of Slimy girlS. That boys vs. girls stuff is a natural part of growing up. I know that. I just would never have expected to see it at four years old.

"Why do you like it if it has the word girl in it?"

Oh my son. How long do I have before you realize that's the main reason to like anything?

Picture For This Day


Godfather Daniel reads the comics from Sunday's paper. Kiernan loves having the comics read to him. The fact that he could read almost all of it himself makes no difference. As it says in Ecclesiastes, "A time to love, a time to hate; a time for war, a time for peace; a time to read the comics, a time to have the comics read to you."

The best seat in the house is, clearly, draped over the reader.

March 23, 2009

P.S. Congrats to Daniel for passing his Avid certification on this day! WOO-HOO! We're proud of you, my friend.

The Unbearable Shoeness of Shoes

A couple more shots from Diego's party, with less blather...


Right after getting his face painted.



Prepping for the wheelbarrow race. Kiernan is at the top of the picture, on his hands. His pal Nicholas is standing behind him in the red shirt, holding his feet.


Nicholas and Kiernan actually crossed the finish line. Without collapsing. Without having to be encouraged or begged or cajoled. They did it on their own. It's funny the things you feel proud about as a parent.


Speaking of which...here's a picture of Kiernan putting on his shoes while talking to his pal Nicholas. This is such a simple, everyday thing. But I love it. Kiernan can now put on his own socks and shoes without our help. He can just do it. And he had to do it multiple times this day, as he got in and out of the bouncy house multiple times and had to take off his shoes every time. Now granted, these shoes just have velcro straps, not laces, but I still love it. Because I remember the exact moment I learned to tie my shoes. The exact moment. So this makes me happy.


Putting on his own shoes. Having his own conversation.


Seeing the future. It's beautiful. Amazing. Terrifying.

Monday, March 23, 2009

Come Bounce with Me


If you arrive at a house, and you're walking up the driveway, and you hear the sound of a gigantic vacuum cleaner emanating from the backyard, you know,

1. You're at a party.
2. In Southern California.
3. For a kid.
4. They've rented a bouncy house.
5. Kiernan's going to have a blast, no matter who shows up.

It's almost impossible to throw a party for a child in Southern California--and for some adults too--without renting one of these bouncy house jumper contraptions. If I still lived in Virginia and heard about this convention I would most assuredly scoff. Crazy Californians. But being here I have been to countless parties that had bouncy houses. Seeing the things work in action, packed full of kids, all day long, for under a hundred bucks...I have to say I get it. We rented one for Kiernan's third and fourth birthdays, and there's no doubt in my mind we got our money's worth. If I wasn't sure that first year during the party, I was sure after the sun went down and the kids went home and to bed and the adults all went nuts in the thing. For the kids it's de riguer. For the adults it's like capturing a tiny slice of the state fair moon walk. It's worth it.

Saturday was Diego's birthday party, Diego being one of Kiernan's buddies from school. We were pretty excited about this party, especially since there had been no school on Friday on account of Parent Teacher Conferences. So while it was probably a social faux pas, we showed up exactly on time for the party. We couldn't help it. We had to get there to see the friends. Hearing the siren song of the bouncy house as we approached the house only confirmed for us that punctuality is a virtue.

After dropping off Diego's gift Kiernan kicked off his shoes and dove into the bouncy house, elated to find that his friends Nicholas and Veronica were already inside. Kiernan went nuts until the announcement was made that pizza was available. This caused him to pause, which made perfect sense to me as he had complained about being hungry all the way to the party. The pause lasted for about a millisecond, however. Bouncing was just more important. Eventually Nicholas left the bouncy house to eat, so it was easier for me to convince Kiernan that eating was a useful thing. He took a couple of minor bites of pizza (it had slightly too much sauce...oof), ate a couple pieces of fruit, and dashed back to the bouncy house.

He would have stayed there all day if the clown guy hadn't shown up.

I don't know how this worked, but it did. When these clown/party/entertainer people show up I just want to yell "Check please!" and skeedaddle. Even [especially] when it was me being the clown/party/entertainer. I just don't get it. But the kids went nuts about this guy and gathered around to play his games. To his credit, he had a plan and was reasonably organized and got the kids excited and interested. They played his games and had a blast. First up they did a couple of parachute games. Kiernan is usually leery of these games, and indeed when this started up he backed off, saying he didn't want to do it. Then he just jumped in and totally got into it. Look at him laughing in the picture to the left there. I love it when he laughs like this. Such abandon.

Kiernan even agreed to have his face painted. Not entirely surprising, considering Nicholas was getting his done. But still, this was of his own volition. Without a hint of a suggestion from me. Nice.

Most surprising for me was the wheelbarrow race. The entertainer-dude decided to do a wheelbarrow race with the kids. The kids all paired up and lined up, and the parents all looked at each other with looks of delight and doubt. There was no way our kids were going to actually do a wheelbarrow race. Seriously. This guy had clearly bitten off more than he could chew. Wrong. The "race" did take forever to get going, and was a little chaotic, but on the whole it actually came off. Kiernan and Nicholas actually did a wheelbarrow race, and basically won! I say "basically" because they came in second to the clown doofus and his partner. And he actually had the temerity to tell them they came in second to him. The adult. Doofus.

No matter. Kiernan got it. The guy pulled the same thing in the "Shark vs. Minnows" game. He played along to help the kids get it (cool). He tagged kids out as if he were really playing the game (not). Later, on the way home, Kiernan asked me about this. "Why did the teacher tag me?" He was one of the last three, and didn't win because the "teacher" (Kiernan referred to him as the teacher) tagged him out. Hmmm. Kind of weird, but oh well.

No matter. The bouncy house was there to erase all concerns.

[I will post a couple more party pictures in the next post, including pics of the wheelbarrow race. This post is long enough.]

Saturday, March 21, 2009

Picture of This Day


Hanging with Nicholas at a birthday party for Diego, one of Kiernan's school friends. Or maybe at a photo shoot for the cover of S.E. Hinton's long lost novel about toddlers. Either way, there's a lot I could say about this picture, but I'll stick with the first word that came to mind when I looked a it just now on my computer:

Trouble.

Saturday, March 21, 2009

Friday, March 20, 2009

Picture of This Day


Out for a walk on this lovely Friday afternoon. Every twenty feet or so Kiernan asked to go up on my shoulders. He'd humored me by playing basketball with me before this walk--for a long time actually--so I was happy to hoist him up.

Friday, March 20, 2009

Wednesday, March 18, 2009

Picture For This Day


Playing outside with his mom and the Planet Heroes on Saint Patrick's Day. Sweet.

March 17, 2009

Tuesday, March 17, 2009

Picture of This Day


Hanging out with his pals Nicholas and Ian after school today, wearing green. Usually they are all running about roly-poly, pell-mell all over the yard of the school. At one point today these three headed off to have a talk. I loved seeing them just hanging out behind the tree, having a conversation about video games.

Happy Saint Patrick's Day!

March 17, 2009

Sunday, March 15, 2009

Picture of This Day


At dinner with Darren and Daniel at a big old Italian restaurant. Don't worry, the table is covered with large sheets of butcher paper.

Sunday, March 15, 2009

Saturday, March 14, 2009

Picture of This Day


At a playdate with his school buddy, Jacob.

Saturday, March 14, 2009

Friday, March 13, 2009

Picture of This Day


Waiting for Mom to get home from work. So excited to see her. Every time he heard a car he would get up from drawing on his Doodle Pro and open the door to check.

March 13, 2009

Thursday, March 12, 2009

Picture of This Day


After school, examining a couple of worms with his friends.

March 12, 2009

Wednesday, March 11, 2009

Pretty Funny

Tonight, in transitioning Kiernan to brushing teeth and bedtime reading, Wendy gave him four extra minutes for playtime with Granddaddy Jake. Have I mentioned how much I love the way this kid talks?

Granddaddy Jake: What are you gonna do for four minutes?

Kiernan: What do you want to do?

Granddaddy Jake: You could sit on the toilet for four minutes.

Kiernan: You've got to admit that's pretty funny.

Our Galaxy


Kiernan and Omi read about the Solar System. Sorry about the crappy quality of the picture, but I was so tickled by the moment and this was the best shot I could get. When they got to this page, Kiernan pointed at the picture and said,

"Can you believe it, this is our galaxy!"

Riches


Granddaddy Jake and Omi are in town for a visit, and I cannot tell you how excited Kiernan is. It's an embarrassment of riches, having just had Pap-Pap's company about a week ago. This boy loves his grandparents. Loves them.

Granddaddy Jake and Omi arrived this afternoon. Kiernan showed them his bunk bed, introduced them to his Planet Heroes, and generally set about making them feel at home. As the adults got carried away talking and catching up, he got a bit antsy. So Omi suggested he bring one of his Solar System books into the living room and teach her about the Solar System. So he picked out the beautiful and enormous picture book of the universe that his godfathers gave him last year.

I love seeing Kiernan with his grandparents. I love the way he interacts with them, the way he responds to them. I love how specific this interaction is. How he reacts and interacts to each one of them so uniquely.

He was particularly focused upon getting Granddaddy Jake to take his shoes off when he and Omi arrived this afternoon. Part of this was because I greeted Jake and Karen (Omi) with one shoe on and one shoe off (timing). Part of this was just pure little boy excitement. That thing that happens when your unbearable excitement leads to incessant talking.

"Take both your socks off...I did!"

After dinner we all read a new Magic School Bus book. Kiernan's favorite books right now.

Tuesday, March 10, 2009

Picture of This Day


Introducing Granddaddy Jake to the Planet Heroes.

March 10, 2009

Monday, March 09, 2009

Picture For This Day


Kiernan is developing a number of new expressions.

Picture taken by Pap-Pap.

March 2009

Sunday, March 08, 2009

Picture For This Day


At Baskin Robbins. Last time he was here was with Pap-Pap, and they both had the same flavor of ice cream: Mississippi Mud. Kiernan insisted upon ordering this flavor again this time, even though it was not apparently available. The lady behind the counter happily accommodated us anyway.

So upon sitting down I said, "Give me a smile for Pap-Pap."

March 6, 2009

Saturday, March 07, 2009

Picture of This Day


T-ball evaluation day.

March 7, 2009

Friday, March 06, 2009

Picture of This Day


At Trader Joe's, wearing my green fleece pullover because he was cold in the store.

I was wearing this pullover on this day because of Color Week at Kiernan's school, and I like to dress accordingly when I come to pick him up. Friday was Rainbow/Favorite Color Day. I don't have a rainbow colored shirt, so I wore my pullover because it is my favorite color, even though it wasn't really cold enough to wear it. This paid off as Kiernan needed it in TJ's.

Friday, March 6, 2009

Thursday, March 05, 2009

Picture of This Day


At an indoor playground place called Under the Sea, celebrating his school friend Kyle's birthday. He went down this slide countless times.

March 5, 2009

Wednesday, March 04, 2009

Picture of This Day


At the airport. Pap-Pap flew away, back to Virginia today. Note the difference in attitude from arrival to departure.

We miss you, Dad.

March 4, 2009

Tuesday, March 03, 2009

Another Picture of This Day


Showing Pap-Pap his bike riding skills. Picture taken by Pap-Pap.

March 3, 2009

Picture of This Day


Working on one of many...MANY...projects during Pap-Pap's visit.

March 3, 2009

Monday, March 02, 2009

Picture For This Day


Bedtime games. I include this picture because it reminds me of similar pictures my sister Hope took when she was here, and this picture was taken by my dad (Pap-Pap).

March 2009

Sunday, March 01, 2009

Picture of This Day


You have to take Pap-Pap to see the ocean when he visits, no matter what time of year it is.

March 1, 2009